Time：第170次例會，2017年1月7日(週六)下午2:30~5:30
Place：Masa Loft -- 台南市東區大學路西段53號
Agenda
14:30~15:30 Free Talk Session
15:30~15:50 Speech Session
15:50~16:00 Change Group and then Break Time
16:00~17:15 Topic Discussion Session
17:15~17:30 Happy Time
15:30~15:50 Speech Session
15:50~16:00 Change Group and then Break Time
16:00~17:15 Topic Discussion Session
17:15~17:30 Happy Time
Host: Grace
Assistant Host: Cherry
Assistant Host: Cherry
Topic: How to Make Good Friends: Tips for Meeting People and Making Meaningful Connections
Source: http://www.helpguide.org/…/relation…/how-to-make-friends.htm
Source: http://www.helpguide.org/…/relation…/how-to-make-friends.htm
| The life-enhancing, mood boosting benefits of friends |
- Improve your mood
- Help you to reach your goals.
- Reduce your stress and depression.
- Support you through tough times.
- Support you as you age.
- Boost your sense of self-worth
Questions:
1. From the article, can you point out and comment on some helpful suggestions to make good friends? What is the easiest (and most difficult) part to make new friends in a new environment?
2. Please share an interesting experience in meeting new people.
3. What is your definition of a "good friend"?
4. Do you think the first impression is important when talking to people for the first time? Do you often initially judge others based on first impressions?
5. What are the benefits of having good friends around you?
6. How do you turn acquaintances to friends? Please share your experiences.
If you're afraid of rejection...
- If someone does reject you, that doesn’t mean that you’re worthless or unlovable. Maybe they’re not a nice person!
- You’re not going to like everyone you meet, and vice versa. Like dating, building a solid network of friends can be a numbers game. If you’re in the habit of regularly exchanging a few words with strangers you meet, any rejections are less likely to hurt. There’s always the next person. Focus on the long-term goal of making quality connections, rather than getting hung up on any connections that didn’t pan out.
- Keep rejection in perspective. Instead of beating yourself up, give yourself credit for trying and see what you can learn from the experience.
Jenny Blake建議，在設定2017年新目標的同時，可以問自己：「這些事情為什麼對我來說很重要？」不僅能幫助你想清楚自己所做的事，對1年、甚至10年後自己的職涯及個人生活有什麼幫助，也能打破我們依賴的線性思考，看看自己的構想能不能激出創意的火花。
Evaluating interest
Friendship takes two, so it’s important to evaluate whether the other person is looking for new friends.
- Do they ask you questions about yourself, as if they’d like to get to know you better?
- Do they tell you things about themselves beyond surface small talk?
- Do they give you their full attention when you see them?
- Does the other person seem interested in exchanging contact information or making specific plans to get together?
If you can’t answer “yes” to these questions, the person may not be the best candidate for friendship now, even if they genuinely like you. There are many possible reasons, so don’t take it personally!