2017年2月25日 星期六

170225台南快樂英語讀書會(Tainan Happy English Club) ～ 研究：男人希望女人分攤約會花費，但不敢......(Study: Men Want Women to Chip In on Dates, but Are Afraid to Ask)

台南快樂英語讀書會 Tainan Happy English Club









NBCNews.com
  • 84% of men and 58% of women said that men paid for most dating expenses.
  • 39% of women hoped men would not ask them to contribute.
  • 44% of women were annoyed when men “expected” women to pay.
  • 44% of men said they would stop seeing women who never pay for dates.
  • 64% of men believed women should pick up from time to time, though 76% said they felt “guilty” saying so.
  •  4 in 10 men and women said that dating expenses were usually shared within the first month, and nearly three-fourths (74%) of men and 83% of women said they’re shared by the sixth-month mark.





彭佳慧 Julia Peng - 走不回去的旅程 Journey



Time：170225
Place：Masa Loft -- 台南市東區大學路西段53號
Agenda
14:30~15:30 Free Talk Session
15:30~15:50 Speech Session
15:50~16:00 Change Group and then Break Time
16:00~17:15 Topic Discussion Session
17:15~17:30 Happy Time
Host: Gary
Assistant Host: ?
Questions: 
  1. Are you willing to share dating expenses? Why?
  2. Where is a good pace to go on a date in Tainan?
  3. If you’re having a bad day, would you want your partner to leave you alone or spend time with you and cheer you up?
  4. When should you introduce your boyfriend/girlfriend to your parents? (when you begin dating, after you have been together for a while, only when the relationship is serious) Why?
  5. Would you mind if your partner making more money than you?
  6. If your partner could make more money, would you stay home with the kids?
  7. How should finances be planned between a couple?
  8. ESL Conversation Questions - Dating













拒絕你的人是在評論他自己，不是你。如果判斷力不夠，以至於沒能愛上你，那是他們的問題，不是你。我感覺很糟，但如果那是他的選擇，那就是他的選擇。這不代表我是錯的。在錯的時候遇到對的人與遇到錯的人是一樣的。這很悲哀，除了往前邁進，沒有別的辦法。堅持不懈。你要找一個想和你在一起的人。你越快收集到拒絕的回應，越能快點找到真愛。選擇很簡單：你要不要對自己的恐懼心理說，你的人生才不看它的臉色？還是你要為它建立一座祭壇，花很多時間崇拜？










朋友不是加法，無數個假面的人，不如一個真心的陪伴 - 優生活 - 娛樂 - 肆一 - 商業周刊 - 商周.com
沒有人可以跟所有人都當朋友。並不是自己不願意，而是這當中更包含了對方的意願；友情跟愛情也一樣，無法單向地達成。這樣的體悟在當時還因此令你覺得有點難過。你永遠都無法知道對方怎麼想，就像是對方也不會知道你心裡所有的心思一樣，無謂的猜測只是增添更多的困擾而已。朋友更不是一種加法，不會隨著年紀的增長而跟著累積，相反地，時間會幫你篩選朋友，讓真心的人留下。朋友也有朋友的緣分，不必勉強對方與彼此。做人還是要和善客氣，但人的能力與時間都有限，無法去在意每個人的感受，也無法讓每個人都喜歡，既然如此，何不把時間拿來專心對待對自己來說更重要的朋友。




احمد شيبة - اه لو لعبت يا زهر - و الراقصة الا كوشنير




越是害怕的時候、你反而越要逼自己跨出去。不然等越久年紀越大，你會更加不敢行動，自我防禦也會越強；可是內心卻也會越寂寞。這樣的矛盾其實只是在傷害自己呢！其實戀愛中的恐懼，每個人都是相同的。就算你很有經驗，面對對方「到底是否喜歡自己」時，也還是會覺得忐忑不安。換言之，就算你練習充分了，真的上了場、真的面對了你在意的對象，你還是很難完全的從容、也不可能毫不在意。你會發現被拒絕其實並不可怕。真正可怕的，是你拒絕了冒險後所帶來的可能性。這些戀愛經驗少的人，往往在關鍵該向前時往後退、在該退的時候又拼命往前衝，或是在所有衝突中只考慮自己的心情，不斷因為「覺得自己不配」而傷害別人。但這些自以為是卻總是讓自己把別人推遠而不自知。你要談好戀愛，你其實得讓自己變得強大。但所謂強大，並不是很多人以為找個好工作、多賺些錢、有個顯赫的頭銜那種。那種外顯條件的強大，其實是虛的。因為就算有別人來接近，也只是為了你這些外在的條件。所以你若把所有時間都投注在工作上，妄想靠收入來讓別人愛上自己，這其實是非常危險的策略。所謂自己必須變得強大，指的是你要讓你的「內心強大」。你得培養對自己的自信、控制自己的自卑、處理自己的不安全感。兩人能不能走得長久，關鍵完全不在喜歡不喜歡，而在於我們跟人相處的能力－家事的分工、時間的分配、陪伴的拿捏、關心的尺度、說話的態度、行為舉止、怎麼面對爭議、怎麼回應抱怨、甚至對方家人朋友怎麼看待我們，才是決定一段長期關係能不能持續下去的關鍵。









如果不改變，我也再無其他退路。打扮是一種日常，是生活的一部分。我們的內外在是相互牽引的，外在改變會引動內在，內在改變會反映在外在。








  • If you had one day left to live, what would you do?
  • Where would you most like to go on vacation?
  • What would you do if you won $10,000?
  • What is your most embarrassing moment?
  • Who is your favorite movie star (of the opposite sex)?
  • What do you like best about me?
  • What one thing would you like to change about me?
  • Who was the first person you kissed?
  • What is something you did as a child that your parents don't know about?
  • Role questions. Examples of this type of question include "how would you feel if I made more money than you" and "would you be willing to stay home with the kids while I work?"
  • What is your favorite color?
  • What is your favorite season?
  • What is your favorite restaurant?
  • What is the craziest dream you've ever had?
  • What do you think is the dumbest thing you've ever done?
  • Is there a silly accomplishment you've made that you're secretly really proud of?
  • If you could trade lives with someone, who would it be?
  • What's your favorite time of day and why?
  • Who is your favorite superhero?
  • Is there a show that you used to watch as a kid that you would love to see come back?
  • What's your favorite outdoor activity?
  • What's your favorite book?
  • Which magazines do you subscribe to?
  • What's one thing that almost no one knows about you?
  • Would you rather go for a hot air balloon ride or bungee jump?
  • Would you rather give up music or television for a month?
  • What are three things on your bucket list?
  • What's your favorite kind of food?
  • How do you handle it when your family doesn't approve of a decision you've made?
  • What song can always make you dance, especially when no one's around?
  • Do you sing in the shower?
  • What's the strangest thing you've ever eaten?
  • Do you have any odd quirks?
  • What did you want to be when you grew up?
  • If you could choose any career right now, what would it be?
  • Do you have any hidden talents?
  • What phone apps are you obsessed with?
  • If you could pick any character from a TV show and pair them with any character from a book for a whole new story, who would you put together?





李偉文的聞見思 - 文字創作 - 中時部落格 - 中時電子報
我跟女兒提醒，如果你能事先知道對你有好感的人思想偏激，生活中沒有與朋友正常的互動，或者沉迷於電玩，菸酒等不良習慣，能不來往就不要與他們來往，可是即便看起來很正常的人想追你，也要保持一定的分際，不要太早接受告白，交往的時間長一點，在還沒有確認對方是適合自己的伴侶之前，不要接受他們過於貴重的招待禮物或者超乎一般朋友有來有往的幫忙，頂多只接受自己能夠回饋的招待，否則也許會讓對方覺得「我都對你那麼好」，而產生是你背叛，你對不起他的憤怒情緒。










大年初二，3個離婚大叔約喝咖啡：女人有兩種，一種來報仇，一種來報恩 - 職場力 - 心靈成長 - 非讀BOOK - 商業周刊 - 商周.com
離婚，這宛如人生戰役的光榮勛章，你必須參與過，身陷重圍過，受盡很多折磨，才知婚姻真的有一大堆說不出的苦。女人有兩種，一種來報仇，一種來報恩，請你想清楚要跟那一種在一起。一個人愛上另一個人，常常是一念之間的決斷，但是如何確認對方就是那個要跟自己一起共度一生的人，並且付出極大的心力讓彼此在一起，這是好大的考驗。












35歲還沒買房，是不是個魯蛇？先問問自己：在人生最後會愛你的是房子還是家人(35) - 地產軍師紅色子房 - 房地產 - 房地產 - 商周財富網 - 商業周刊
請記得，「擁有房子」不會是你的九號球，珍惜與擁有愛你的家人，就算租屋也一樣幸福。即便坐擁家產萬貫，沒有親人一起分享也不算幸福。最近有人LINE一段文字給我：真正的幸福是窮的時候，有人跟著你；病的時候，有人照顧你；老的時候，有人陪伴你；錯的時候，人有包容你。想想看，在夜深人靜的時候，一個孤獨的房東面對空蕩蕩的大房子，一家歡樂的租戶窩在一起聊天談心，你覺得誰是WINNER，誰是LOSER呢？






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